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Parenting Tip 1
TIME OUTS!
Time out is not a foreign term to most parents. If used correctly, it can be a valuable parenting tool that will help reduce attention seeking and other negative behaviors. Use of this tool is usually well intended, but not always correct. Below is a helpful reference chart to inform and amuse parents on using time out effectively.
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DO |
DON’T |
| Explain time out to your child before using it. Where to go and what is expected. | Leave them guessing: What is a time out? |
| Use when child is not responding to simple requests, being defiant or disrespectful. Use when child will calm down if removed from the situation. | Wait until the child is going to burn the house down, hurt themselves/others, or when in the middle of an explosive conflict. |
| Use it as a coping tool along with other parenting skills. | Use it 20-30 times a day. |
| Keep it simple, 3 strikes, TIME OUT! | Parent: I’ve asked you 10 times…why won’t you listen? |
| Find a safe, predetermined place where the child can refocus and learn. | Lock them in the closet. |
| Allow one minute per child’s age for each time out. | Wonder an hour later…where is Johnny? |
| Ignore frustrated outbursts during time out, but ensure safety. | Pick a fight with your child over every detail. |
| Be consistent. If you say it, do it! | Give in to begging and reward your child for bad behavior. |
| Be firm, stand your ground. | Ask: Will you take a time out? |
| End the time out with a basic review of positive choices and praise for calming down and moving on with a more positive day. | Lecture, criticize your child’s choices, and constantly remind them of the time out. |
| Take time to relax while your child is calming down. | Leave the house for a mini-vacation. |
For more information on correct usage of this parenting skill, parents might consider the following resources:
This information is provided as a courtesy of HCI and is not intended to replace professional advice.
